Tuesday, September 25, 2007
Paige made mention that she uses my side bar to visit other blogs I have listed there. She also mentioned that she can't access my comments because it's barred for some unknown reason.
Then we get to this part of the conversation I thought I would share with you.
She informed me that she could access every one's blog but Get Off My Lawn's. She then went on to say that she assumed this was because he was Canadian.
Pause for that perfect thought to enter her head................
She then said..."OMG. That is so wrong. What is this school? Country-ist? Jeeze. You got racists, weightists, and now we got countryists. Will it never end???"
It literally took me a minute and when I caught it, I died laughing.
Lawn? My girl is on your side, man. She's gonna fight for the Canadian bloggers of this Internet World.
Just thought you'd like to know.
Another quick note for you, Internets. I added a couple more sites that I like to visit on a regular basis. A good number of bloggers I have listed are fellow Navy Wives. We all live this crazy life with views that differ from person to person. I support my sisters and hope that you, too, enjoy visiting their lives from time to time. If you are a visitor and would like to have your name on my list, just let me know! Of course this will mean a visit to your blog where I leave random comments at will. Are you willing to take this chance?
Monday, September 24, 2007
I had no clue what to expect. I take that back. I knew to expect some tipsy people and alot of hollering on occasion. These boys...uh, men....tend to live hard their one night of the year and let it all hang loose. There are a few things I felt it okay to mention to the general public.
First, to see all the new Chiefs come in together was just the coolest. To watch them march in formation and recite things they had learned made me so proud of each of them. To hear a new Chief sing our anthem with a shaky voice brought tears to my eyes. To hear around 80 men sing "Anchors Aweigh" was the best. Even better? To hear my husband singing it under his breath beside me.
Secondly, I have to mention that the dining room was set with each command/boat having their own group of tables. Apparently, my husband's command requested to sit in the back. I'm thinking that is because some genius from this command decided to make a submarine that dispensed liquor shots out of it's torpedo holes. You read that right. It even had sound effects when the button was pushed to deliver tequila into little shot glasses that sat on top. You had the big wig guys giving their speeches up front and you could faintly hear the sound of a submarine. People who did not know of this marvel would look around trying to see where the sound was coming from. Of course, this made our command very popular with lots of visitors between courses to see this amazing machine and partake in a shot...or two...or three.....
Third. I think I cramped my husband's style. He cringed alot when the rowdy group behind us would break into a very salty song, filled with lots of adjectives that shouldn't be shouted in a public place. I just grinned because that dog of mine has had his day long before I came into the picture. I'm not kidding you. I heard more curse words in one line of a more salty song than should be legal.
Fourth. Totally claim that is your neighbor up at the deejay booth singing karaoke with his boys, but refrain from taking a picture because someone having a time that good should NOT have it held against him. Hey, he just got back in a little over a week ago. Call it a freebie that I'm going to wait a few more days before I give him grief over it. Oh, did I mention that it wasn't a true karaoke song? They just wanted to sing along with Bon Jovi cause they're cool like that?
Fifth. Be proud that your husband is part of this fraternity of men and women. They work hard to ensure our country is taken care of. They deal with a lot of crap that would amaze the average person.
Miss Hope had her a truly good time. Who wouldn't with a starb*cks coffee bar set up for her drinking pleasure? Our guys deserved this party in their honor.
All that's left to say is...
OOO YA, CHIEFS! JOB WELL DONE!
Friday, September 21, 2007
It wasn't spectacular and filled with flowers and romance because..well, that's not how I am. That, and the fact that my husband was gone all night Wednesday night due to work. It was a fun part of work, but it meant no sleep for him. I did wake up around 3 a.m. to send him a text message, to which he replied promptly.
At 6:45 a.m. he came home to the chaos that is our home in the mornings before school. We drank a cup of coffee and talked a little about his long night. He was kind enough in his sleepy state to volunteer to take the boy to school.
We decided to go to the Khaki Ball this weekend. This is a Navy related event that happens once a year (around our anniversary). You get to dress up and enjoy pomp and circumstance of a sort. You also get to see a bunch of people get toasty. If you're smart? You take your camera. Pictures come in handy later. Trust me.
Because of this event, I deemed it necessary to get a pedicure and manicure. I have to blame Lu about that as she gave me this for a birthday present back in May and started a new love and appreciation for such a luxury. I got dressed, and left my husband to sleep his night off. Carla went with me because she's that kind of friend. She'd never let me go alone to get the foot and hand goodness without sharing in the joy.
Beauty takes time, Internets. I discovered that the Man would have to go get The Boy so I could finish up. He obliged because he's that kind of guy. I think he might have gotten a little ticked at me because I called him at least three times to make sure he was awake and lucid enough to understand he needed to go. He didn't answer by the third call.
Our base was conducting a security drill of sorts yesterday. I don't know the particulars about it, except it makes it a pain in the butt to get on and off base. God help you if your vehicle is chosen for random inspection. I picked up the kids (Mak and the neighbors kids) from school and sat in line to get back to our home. Word of advice? If you are in the military...don't tint the windows of your vehicle. That just makes a gung-ho security guard all suspicious about you and your life and you are more than likely gonna get your vehicle inspected. Tough if you're running late for an appointment.
We were going to have to pick Paige up from school, so I decided we would all go together in case the base got all crazy and locked every gate for a while. As we were waiting outside the school for her, Fred and I were chatting some. I made the comment that four years ago, I would have never thought I would be sitting in front of a school in Georgia four years later. Fred laughed and said the thought was WAY outrageous. (paraphrasing there) But, in Georgia we are. Together. As a family should be.
Fred informed me that he had high aspirations for our anniversary. Flowers. A nice supper out for the both of us. I told him that I knew he was officially an old man and being up all night was hard on him now.:) I enjoyed my pedicure and manicure with Carla and the Chinese buffet hit the spot where we ate for supper.
I am so glad I still like my husband. Love him? Absolutely. With all my heart. I must...I moved 300 miles away from my family to be with him. I just can't believe that we've been together for six years total and I like him as a person. I didn't have that at all with my first husband and this is a novelty that I hope never goes away. (At this point, I'm sure that's not going to happen.) I talk with other women...some who have been married a short time and others who've been married for many years. Too many of them say they aren't "friends" with their husbands. I find that sad. If you can't have fun hanging out with the person who shares your life and your bed.....then what's the point? Just my thoughts and observations on the subject.
Oh, and please don't be fooled by the title of our party tomorrow night. Khaki Ball? A Ball? Cinderella, I am not. No glass slippers to be found on my feet (although they DO look amazing at the moment)(my feet, that is) I'm not clear on why the Navy insists on calling such things "Balls". I guess they get their kicks where they can. Last I heard, though, beer can be served anywhere.
Today I'm off to find the perfect black shoes to match my outfit. These tootsies of mine should be showcased. That, and the fact that I already had an outfit, so I NEED to buy something new. It's only fair, you understand.
Have a wonderfully Edgy weekend, Internets!
Monday, September 17, 2007
I got a good laugh out of our conversation today and just felt deep down I needed to share it just to show you how boring my life can be at moments. After receiving permission from Miss C, I did a little copy and paste. Just ignore any typos or grammatical errors because we really don't care.
Hope Tee: and i'm sitting here wondering what to eat because if fred isn't here...i don't want to cook a meat, complex carb, and green just for me.
Carla Girl: i'm just eating some white rice.
Carla Girl: i put a dab of butter on it...and some no salt
Carla Girl: its not bad.
Hope Tee: girl.i just can't eat rice like that
Hope Tee: it goes against my southern blood
Carla Girl: lol
Carla Girl: have a can of tuna
Hope Tee: without salad dressing and pasta?
Carla Girl: yeah, you can do it...
Carla Girl: lol
Carla Girl: bake a small potato in the microwave for 8 minutes
Hope Tee: hadn't thought of that
Hope Tee: have never cooked 'em in microwave either
Carla Girl: i believe its for 8 mins
Carla Girl: poke a fork in it to create some air holes
Hope Tee: will it explode if i don't? because that would be really cool if it did.
Carla Girl: omg, i don't know i've never tried it
Carla Girl: it wouldn't be any cool to have to clean it up
Hope Tee: that's why i got paige.
Carla Girl: i need to be out there mowing the front yard
Carla Girl: but i'm so lazy
Hope Tee: it's looking like rain...so really? There's no need because if you cut it then after the rain you'll have those weedy shooty up thingys and that would piss you off because you would have just cut it.
Carla Girl: yeah i guess so
Carla Girl: i just hate unkept grass
Carla Girl: its my pet peeve man
Hope Tee: it's not a favorite thing of mine either but that grass is gotta be dang tall for me to justify sweating
Carla Girl: i hear ya
Yeah, we're a laugh a minute, that Carla and I. Another moment to share, if you will. Last night my husband and I were discussing this season of Big Brother. If you have watched it, it's been enough to make your nerves seriously bad. It's down to a father-daughter team that really are dysfunctional.
So here went the conversation betwixt Fred and myself:
Fred: You know, I get the impression that Dick is the type of guy that would give you the shirt off of his back if you needed.
Miss Hope: Yeah, I think he would, too. But, I think he would slap you with it a few times for good measure before he handed it over.
And, we have one more moment to share........
Last night there was a commercial on television about losing weight. Paige is a beautiful gal that is curvaceous. She's not a stick like most her age and I just want her to see how feminine she is sometimes. (Sometimes, I'd rather her not, you know.)
Commercial: Take this drug and go from a size 12 to a size 2 !!!!!!
Me: That's crazy. A size 12 can be perfect for someone. Why be crazy about it? I'd kill to be a nice sized 12.
Paige: Me, too.
Pause a moment for new thought to enter Paige's head.
Paige: Yep, I sure would. Both hands around the throat.........
I laughed so hard because my child just comes up with stuff off the cuff sometimes that catches you off guard and can tickle you to no end.
Now, I'm off to get The Boy dressed for school and enjoy my time alone. Have I mentioned how much I LOVE school?
Thursday, September 13, 2007
This is what Paige took of the sun setting through the tree. I gotta admit..the girl did a good job. I'm considering framing this one....
This a view of the smaller sail boats located where we parked. My son can sit and look at them forever. I wish I could see through his eyes and know what he's thinking when he gazes at them.
I thought I'd throw this one in. I took it back in May when we got out and walked around some. If you look in the background, you can see the boats from the previous picture. Well, probably not the same boats, but you can see how close they are. This has got to be the most beautiful park I've ever seen. We even had family pictures taken here.
Wednesday, September 12, 2007
Stoved up. What exactly does that mean? I dunno. It's a Southern saying that I've grown up with and every time someone is sick, you hear an older person say, "Bless your heart! You're all stoved up!" All I know is that I am. Stoved up, that is.
Our "Your Grades Suck Intervention" went well the other night. I was firm, but put it all out there. I believe Paige understood completely that the line in the sand had been crossed and my demeanor told her to just deal with it because my mind wasn't changing anytime soon.
Remember I had the bright idea (did I put it here?) that she would do her homework at the dining room table after supper? That way, she would be behind Fred and me while we watched television and we would be there to help her if need be. Well, GAWD, that sister can run her mouth. She never shuts up! She talks the entire time she's sitting there working and we have yet to watch a full show with all our attention. She takes breaks every 10-15 minutes because "her brain hurts". That means we get to see every new dance out there right now and hear all about the soap opera that is her life at middle school. I'm to the point that I'm wondering if it will be better for her health to stay at the dining room table to work or go to the other side and leave us in peace!
Got another good snippet to share. Her math teacher called the other night! He wanted to make sure that we (Mr. Teacher, Fred, and myself) were all on the same page on helping Paige. He assured us that she can do the work required of her, she just needs to get motivated. We were thanking each other profusely the whole conversation. He was thanking us for being involved parents that didn't believe that "teachers are there to make the child learn with no help from home" and we were thanking him for taking his personal time to contact us and that he is willing to work with us. He said he was thinking about moving her around the class until he found a place that works for her concentration and focus. I told him that it was his decision to make and that we would abide by it. We got some good communication going on here, Internets! Our goodbyes ended with me making sure he understood that he could pick up the phone anytime there was a concern or issue and we would be right on top of things.
Speaking of class. Miss Hope is taking mentor training today. Yee-haw. I'm sorry. I'm really looking forward to it, I just don't feel a 100% and I hope I can make it through without coughing my toenails up. This will mean my volunteer career has officially began. Friday, in order to graduate, we have to do a presentation. ~snort~ Some of the gals have said they just hate getting up in front of people to speak. Not me. Anyone who knows me will tell you I got noooooo problem in front of people. Thing is? I gotta make myself focus and stay on the task at hand. I'll get ten kinds of sidetracked and start running my mouth and the next thing you know? It'll be like the Opr*h show or something.
I'll do my best to check back in before too long. The Edge never slows down enough lately for me to really take my time and check in like I'd like to.
~sigh~ Let me go. The Boy is on the other side banging on something like a drum and that means my pregnant neighbor is going to go postal and I might end up having to slap some sense into her and end up in the base brig until my embarrassed husband comes to get me.
Monday, September 10, 2007
Interim reports came out last week. That means the girls are halfway through the first nine weeks of school. I pay attention to grades. A LOT of attention. I know what these kids of mine are capable of and I expect that level of effort and achievement.
Paige has determined that she is no good at math. I can understand that. I'm not too swift in the math department, either. I was the type person who would fail a math class first go round, then pass it with an A the next time I took it. Don't ask me why it was this way. It just took an extra click in my brain, I suppose. Back in the day, tutors weren't readily available and if they were? They might've interfered with my social life. ( I am rolling my eyes at my own self here.)
I believe the problem lies with the fact that girlfriend has never had to work to make good grades. They just happen for her. She retains knowledge easily and can take a test with no problem. Paige doesn't want to hear that...uh maybe math ISN'T going to be easy. It doesn't mean she can't do it. It just means she's going to have work a little bit to make it happen. Instead of being grateful that everything else is like pie, she wants to bemoan the fact that "math is hooooorrrrrriiiibbbllleeeee. I'm soooooo retarrrrded in maaaaaath." (See what I'm dealing with here?)
Let's say Paige has a bad grade for her math interim report. Oh, yeah, really bad. Last night she brought the paper to me to sign. I told I didn't sign bad grades. (Crank up the dramatics about now...) She said she would get in trouble if I didn't sign the paper. I shrugged and said..."I guess you better not bring another grade like that home again." She then turned to Fred and asked him to step in and sign the paper. He almost did it. Then, he too, decided not to sign it. (Imagine the grumbling and complaining under her breath as she walks away now...)
I know signing the paper doesn't indicate that I approved of the grade. I'm just not going to put my name on the same piece of paper showing that my child didn't do her best. I'm not gonna do it. Call me a hard case if you will. Doesn't bother me in the least.
This morning I received an email from her math teacher. Here's a snippet of what I read when I opened it.....
Paige told Ms. M. that you wouldn’t sign her report card because of her math grade, so I wanted to make sure you understood why her grade is currently a XX. This is primarily because of the poor Unit 1 test; she should have reworked that this weekend and should turn it in today for extra credit.
The bottom line is that she is definitely able to recover and bring her grade up. Please let me know if you have additional questions.
How about that? I love communication between teachers. I love teachers who take initiative even more to let the parent know what's going on. Of course, my goal is not to humiliate my child with this post. I love her too much to do that. A huge portion of the email was deleted to protect the innocent.
So, now we (we=Fred and myself) get to be the Horrible Parental Unit this evening.
It's almost gotta be like a car accident. You don't know it's happening until you are smack dab in the middle of it.
This means that I gotta crack down and wreck Paige's day. I hate doing that.
This means I (and I decided I would be the Enforcer this go round and give Fred a break) get to tell her that herspace thingy is, at the moment, a thing of her past. I'm going to give her two minutes this evening on the phone to inform her posse that evening chat times are no longer an option in her life. As soon as the grades come up? We'll renegotiate. Wait until I tell her the computer is no longer hers to enjoy.
This has potential to get ugly.
My parents think I'm too hard on her. ~shrugs~ Maybe they weren't hard enough on me? Who knows?
My gut feeling tells me that if I don't put her on the right road now? Success will always be out of her reach. I have to teach her to work to achieve goals. Because all these friends who make her world go round? My money is on the fact they won't be around in ten years when she has to pay her own bills.
Oh, the joys of parenting a teenager.
Thursday, September 06, 2007
I got a friend named Chelle back in South Carolina. We've been through many things in our 14 years (has it been that long??) of friendship. Weight loss, marriage, divorce, marriage, the birth of 5 kids, weight gain, crazy relatives, and me moving away. This woman even put her wedding date a month away from my due date (with Makenna) in order for me to be there for the big day. And I was. In all my breast engorged glory. I wouldn't have missed it for the world.
We kept in good contact after I moved. She had to give birth to her baby girl after I was gone and that was just so upsetting to me that I couldn't be there for her. When she had to go back in the hospital from some complications.....we had the best late night conversation that lasted for hours. I have missed that girl like my left arm (being as I'm left handed and all that).
Well, I went home back around May and was supposed to meet her out for lunch along with Lu. Things didn't work out. The birthday gift of a pedicure and manicure lasted way longer than I anticipated and her baby fell asleep and nixed her plans to join us. I was so disappointed when she couldn't come.
I hate this part about being so far away the most. When you do get to go home, you're so busy seeing family that have ownership in your time. I just can't find that extra 10 hours I need in a day when I go. Not a wonderful excuse....but I always feel like I drive up in Mama's yard and literally turn around to come back to Jawja.
One thing those of you who are young will find out soon enough? The older you get...the faster time flies on you. One day my kids were out for summer...the next we were starting back another year. This year the whole month of June was dedicated to getting Mak recovered from surgery. I feel like my whole being was devoted to getting that girl to eat.
I have no clue where July went. I might have to go back in my archives and see what it was all about.
I got a letter today.
With lovely pictures of a baby girl I haven't seen but a couple of times. She's so beautiful and I'm missing out on her in a big way. That is just unacceptable. How is she supposed to know her Aunt Hope if she never gets any time with me???
About the letter. Girlfriend thought we were in a tiff or something?????
Nooooooooooo. It was just life and time flying by too quickly for my liking. I don't have a good bona fide excuse except that...dang, man, 300 miles makes ya work extra hard to preserve a friendship. Looks like I gotta make some changes. Send a little more focus back towards home.
I'm doing this public post to my friend because I tried to call her dang house and her cell phone and couldn't get in touch with her. She admitted to reading my blog, so I'm making sure she knows!!!!!
Chelle? I love you, girl! That screaming voice on your answering machine is me and I would appreciate it if you would erase it. Soon.
p.s. Dude. I am totally holding the strawberries over your head for the rest of our lives.
p.p.s.s. We are NOT gonna turn into Dawg fans. Are you kidding me? I know you would kill me dead. Vitt proudly wears his Clemson outfit every chance he can. Best hand me down EVER.
My brother informed me while I was there that I never call him. I got all blustery and told him that he never called me either. We bickered back and forth with me telling him that I didn't know his work schedule. Next thing I knew...he had me a copy of his schedule. Oh, the fun I shall have now. I intend on utilizing my knowledge of his work habits to the fullest.
I got a little bit of news to share with all my nearest and dearest friends out there in Internet Land. Last year my husband was injured while out at sea. I've made no secret about this and how when the military put him on limited duty, he lost a few pays that really put a hurt on the Edge financial-wise.
Just a little explanation for those who don't live this life I lead. You can get different pays for different jobs in the military. Hazard duty pay for being in a place of war (which is tax free) is one common example. My husband, at the time, was getting sea pay (for going out to sea, obviously), sub pay (for being assigned to a submarine), and pro-pay (my understanding is that he is a Nuke Electrician and when he works in a Nuke billet, he receives a pay for it). Well, within six months of limited duty...we lost all three of those: sea, sub, and pro-pay. To the tune of around $1500.00 a month, my friends. Oh, yeah, the Edge was not happy about that.
Tuesday of this week, I got a call from my husband. Apparently, he had a doctor's appointment. And not just any doctor's appointment. He was told at the very last minute he had to see the doctor who put him on limited duty. This doctor had the power to make my husband disqualify subs (which means he would not be allowed to work on one). I immediately felt anxiety crawl over my spine. Of course, he remained smooth as always.
Carla and John were over for lunch and my husband scarfed his food down and headed out. Well, we had us a little prayer meeting after he left. And I really didn't know what to ask for. Finally, I just asked God to show His will for us and to let me be happy with whatever went down.
A few hours later I got the call I was waiting for.
The doctor cleared my husband to go back to submarines.
I could hear the happiness and relief in his voice.
This is where I have to tell you. When it comes down to it? It's not about the money for my husband. (It might be a little bit with me because Miss Hope loves having a little extra in the bank). It's about finishing up his career doing what he's been trained to do for the last 18 years. It means leaving our United States Navy on HIS terms...not theirs. Being medically disqualified is not a bad thing. Stuff like that happens. It's a fact of life when you do the jobs our men and women do for our country. I just know that my husband is ready to serve his country doing what he knows best. Being in a metal tube working his butt off instead of stuck behind a desk.
Now, while I'm sitting here basking in the glow...some things have yet to get past that glow. Like.....here come duty days......here comes my husband going out to sea while I'm here with all the kids by myself......
Yeah. Expect a few tears on that score eventually.
I have a few more things I want to chat with you about, but I have to go get The Boy up and ready for school. Have I mentioned I love school? I try to at least ten times a day for those who know me personally.
Be happy for us, please. It's been a long year. A wonderful year for our family being able to bond and depend on each other....but, a truly sucky one dealing with not so good finances.
p.s. Fellow Sub Wives who read this? Please feel free to correct me if I have any information wrong. It won't hurt my feelings a bit. I've already established that I'm half way ignorant about these things that go on with the Navy.