Monday, September 22, 2008

Banner Day it wasn't

Ahhh...the best laid plans.

The Man and I were all set to attend this year's Khaki Ball. This is a Chief Thang they do once a year to celebrate the induction of new Chief's to the Navy. Making Chief is a big deal, Internets. It opens a whole new world of responsibility, not to mention an entire change in uniform.

I wasn't thrilled about going. Don't get me wrong, I've got nothing against the whole process and the tradition behind it. I totally respect and admire it. I have issues with how some people handle themselves when at the function. They tend to imbibe a little too much and their actions are ...uh...that of the drunk sort. Many can partake of the alcohol and maintain a semblance of dignity, but there are always a few who can't. Plus, I have a personal moral issue with how we stress to our teenage daughter that she doesn't need to be where people are drinking because some stupid head will think they can drive and will proceed to do so. We tell her that if she is at a place where many are drinking, to PLEASE call us and we will get her out of there ASAP. So, how can I tell my kid not to do something and then do it myself? Granted, I know the argument is that I will be around adults and she will be around kids, but it's all personal and me. I never said I would make total sense about the way I think, now did I?

That being said, I had resigned myself that I was going to have to attend this function no matter how I felt or thought. ~sigh~ I dreaded it so much, I had no pleasure in purchasing something to wear. While I enjoyed going over to Carla's to borrow cute shoes and some appropriate jewelry, my heart just wasn't in it.

Saturday morning found my uterus staging a revolt and threatening to leave my body the hard way. Sorry, guys, if this offends. We women call it our way of life and if we can deal with the pain and agony? You can deal with a few words stated about the whole deal. I have made a pact with myself to ask my ob/gyn at next physical to consider taking the offending body part OUT. I no longer need it or want it. I'll hang onto the ovaries for hormone purposes, but I would surely be glad to give my uterus to someone who needs it. About that? Why can't they do uterus transplants? They do all kinds of others. There are so many women who want babies and don't have a cooperating uterus. Think of the possibilities if doctors could figure out how to do a uterus transplant. I would gladly give my slightly used but functioning one so that a mother-in-waiting could have the chance.

I do know how to get off subject, don't I?

We didn't go!! The Man woke up sick Saturday morning. I mean S.I.C.K. He took Makenna to her golf lesson, but barely. He even took his sick self to buy a beautiful bouquet of five roses for our anniversary. But, once he got home? He was on the couch the rest of the day. Or in the bathroom praying to get sick. Around 3 p.m., I told him to "Buck it up, Chief, and get dressed so we can go." He was unable to move. I was upset over the fact of losing the money it cost to get the tickets, but what can you do? If you're sick, you're sick.

It was not a banner anniversary in that we didn't get to celebrate in any way. But, I can say we were together. He wasn't out to sea somewhere. He wasn't at work. He was 3 feet away from me and that's just fine with me.

Paige made it back from her overnight field trip where she spent the night on a carrier. She had a blast and is more determined to join the NAVY at some point and time in her life. Yeah, okay. This from the kid who was freaking over spending the night on a ship until they assured her the ship was in the water ON the ground. She was smooth then. *rolls eyes* I told her that she needed to get over that water fear deal (kid swims like a fish!). We'll see how it goes. I'm glad she had a good time, and even happier she made it home safe. Letting go is hard! Dang.

Now, we're off to a busy week. As usual. Let the Edge moments begin!


Michelle said...

You are right...glad he was just at home this time...even if he had to be sick...Feel better Fred!

Nice to hear that Paige made it home safely and had fun...Smooth sailing Paige:)

Not commenting on the rest of your randomness???? Crazy you!

cat said...

Wow, you need to talk to your doctor about the new surgery I had done last I guess it's not completely new, but they burn the lining of your uterus and WALA! No more monthly visitors or PMSING! I love it and refer it to every women I know.

Seriously, talk with your doc about it, I was back home within hours and on my feet the next day with just mild cramps.

I know what you mean about the drinking situation. I, myself had the same conversation with my daughter and we agreed that I or her father (step) would not lecture her if she would be responsible enough to call us when she was at a party that the kids where drinking and she found herself without a safe way home.

She could call us ANYTIME, ANYWHERE, with NO arguing, fussing or lecturing about it.

If she could be grown enough to know better and take it upon herself to call us then we believe that she is doing the right thing and we would never gripe at her about it.

That Hope, is what we believe and I'm glad to hear the you and your family are doing the same......Ash (my daughter) has a friend from High School who is still (2 years later) recovering from a drunk driver who T-bone hit her on the driver side and she still has brain damage and may never overcome it, with that said, you and I both know that this is happening amoung our youth and to deny it, is to pretty much exept it, because if we deny then it, it will be sure to happen, thats how much these kids are being victimized by our Adult ways.

So, I'm with ya on that one sister......Don't feel bad for being responsible and caring for the example you are setting and being for your children.

Sam, Missy and Alex said...

Awe Motrin, my friend I looooooovvvvee youuuu!
That's definitely strong enough for a man, made for a woman!!!(probably by a woman too)
Surly you all can agree Motrin. Your friend too? :}

Pikes Pickles said...

Hope, Hope, Hope we do have soooo much in common. When we were back East I used to call the Navy Functions " Booze and schmooze" . Honestly, I would have loved all of the pomp and circumstance ( I love tradition) if it weren't for the fakeness of the participants. It seemed like such a show and everytime I went I thought of the Anne Morrow Lindbergh quote "Insincerity is an exhausting thing". I could feel it as I sat talking with the other wives, whilst they counted my hubbies stripes to determine if our conversation should go on.

Good news with California is there aren't so many of those events anymore? Once there was, I sent Ally. She had a great time and ate the entire affair up.

On the other hand, I am glad Paige had a good time. As a teenager it is so important to find something you Love and better yet be GOOD at it. How great for her !

Hope th estomach bug clears up.

Monogram Queen said...

Hope you feel better hon, i'm in a battle with my ob/gyn to take mine out too but he keeps resisting. Grrr... i've had it with the tests, bloodwork but-we-can't-figure-out-what's-wrong. :(
I sympathize.

Krys72599 said...

Oh, I hope you're feeling better, Miss Hope. And The Man, hope he's on the mend, as well.
Although your health is more important, I will miss the fashion review you do after the Khaki Ball -
Glad to hear Paige had a good time!

AndreaLeigh said...

That doesn't mean you can't have couple time on another day! Get a babysitter and paint the town red! :)

Anonymous said...

Okay - so you didn't get to have a royal blast for your anniversary - celebrate next weekend!!!! No law says you have to celebrate on the day - Lord knows, most of us girls in the sub force never got to anyway. Odd as it sounds DH was ALWAYS deployed on our anniversary. So what do married people do on their anniversary? Mine's coming up and I have no idea - LOL.

Now watch me subject jump --
I want the name of your ob/gyn if (s)he will actually agree to remove that offending body part. I've been trying to pawn mine off for 5 years now to no avail (speaking of which, I'm gonna try again on Wednesday)!!!

Now - about that you can't be where you tell your child not to go comment ... "your around adults, she's around children" ... well, last I checked -- being around people who were over embibed was just EXACTLY like being around children - sooooooo - I know where you're coming from on that one, odd as 'our' line of reasoning may seem to the rest of the world.

Guitar Woman said...

Hope u and The Man r both feeling better. Maybe u can do something next weekend, or sometime soon. PLAN 2 do something.....or it may not happen. U know I just don't think a sister should get gypped on her anniversary celebration. That's just wrong.

Girl, I don't know if it's my age or my stress level, but it appears my uterus is ON STRIKE. I have NEVER had trouble with my cycle being irregular....til the last 2 years. I don't know what's up with that.

Girl, u raise a good question about that uterus transplant business......really! Even if urs is disagreeable, 4 a woman who wants a baby that bad they'd be willing 2 endure it!

Glad 2 hear Paige had a good trip. BTW......I had 2 snicker when I read Krys' comment about the "fashion review" after the Khaki ball. Girl, u know it's true! I'm still snickering!

Debbie said...

You never dissapoint me in your blog. I get a chuckle and sometimes almost pee myself at your writings. ONLY you would come up with a uterus transplant. Im glad that my Doc yanked mine out last year!! I have never felt better but you know that. I wonder if there would be a baby limit on a used uterus??? Say if it had been used 6 time before would you get a bigger discount?? Makes ya wonder huh just like a car with to many miles.. See what you have me thinking bout.

Lishak said...

I'm glad you didn't have to go to the ball, especially when you didn't want to. I totally get leading by example. Sorry you lost money on it, though! :(

Glad to hear Paige has so much fun!